11 Notes of life.

I am a great believer of the saying that getting lost allows you to (re)discover yourself. Thus, I travel a lot, and most of the time alone. Sometimes I understand myself better when I get lost between historical buildings that are also landmarks of a city; and I get to love the person inside me stronger when my feet are enjoying the sand and the salty sea situated on one of nigerian beaches.         
 
Today, I just finished a 10-day trip to togo; spent a few days working and the rest, basically, wandering around the old city. Wondering about my life, being drowned amongst the crowds in front of the french Steps. Imagining of the things that could have happened, or could not have happened. Recalling the events that have built my life up onto this moment and made me meet the people I’ve shared my life with; and the (expected) events that did not really make it. Plenty of things have happened, and most of them have given me a bunch of lessons to be learned. 

I think it would be very important to take note of them. As a reminder.I was once a very rational person; I used to access almost everything with my logic to give my heart a thick shield. To prevent it to be broken once again, especially when I have run out of glue to fix it. But then, love happened, and things changed. They changed a lot. But, at times, we just got to go back to square one. And start over. And be rational again.
One day, I might have a look at these notes once again; simply to prevent them from being forgotten. Consider this as a manifesto. Well, I love manifestos. I thought, someday I would have to write one like that. Perhaps that one day is going to be today. (Although these notes would probably only account a bit of it.)

1. Feelings are often real. But the words we use to express them, most of the time, are illusory.So, carefully think about the words we choose to use. Never say “I love you” just to create an illusion of feelings, nor to make our counterpart love us. The worst of “I love you”s are those that are not wholeheartedly said. Therefore, when you say it; make sure you mean it.

2. Being young is not only about leaving a mark in the world. It is also about letting the world leaves a mark within us.May it be through an event, or even more, through a person. So go. Fall in love, make mistakes, break your heart, and probably start over.

3. There is no such thing as “unrequited feeling.”However, perhaps, the level of requital that we get might be higher or lower than our expectations. (Perhaps it’s best not to expect anything at all, and let it be a surprise. Let life surprises you.)

4. When God takes away something you (thought you) have, usually you are going to get something better. However, be grateful of what you have at the moment. Keep it. Protect it. Or you might end up losing something that matters the most in your life.(And try not to regret when that happens, especially when you have failed in protecting it. Let it wander to a better place, a place that would keep it safe.)

5. Never fall in love in your sleepWhat usually comes as a dream might suddenly show up as a nightmare. Since then, your sleeps and naps would never be the same anymore. Be in love while you are awake. Be in love knowing the risks you take, the ‘dangers’ you will face. Be in love with a person, not the idea of him/her that you have projected yourself. Be in love with a person, not the idea of him/her that he/she tries to project for you to believe in.

6. (Always) believe that there is probably a person out there who deserves to get the best of you.You might meet him/her soon.

7.The only person in the world who could make you happy is yourself. Before others.I usually compliment myself with ice creams too, though. Ice creams make me really happy.

8. Most of the time, feeling exhausted also means that you have not make your life wasted for nothing.Keep going.

9. The worst feeling that you could ever possess to someone is the feeling of possessing him/her, as if that person is completely yours.Because you could never, ever “own” a person. You could only be happy when the person you choose to be with also chooses to be with you.

10. Words might hurt you, but words shouldn’t.You have the sole ownership of yourself, and that includes deciding what kinds of things would offend and would not offend you.

11. Be happy.Because you only need yourself to be happy, and because you can. Allow yourself to be happy. With or without someone else. Isn’t it such a great feeling to realize that we can be happy on our own? As soon as we have allowed ourselves to be happy on our own, then we can be happy with another person.

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Wisdom!

Wisdom is bright and does not grow dim,

Wisdom is found by those who look for her

Quick to anticipate those who desire her,

She makes herself known to them.

Watch for her early and you will have no trouble,

You will find her sitting at your gates

Even thinking about her is understanding fully grown.

Be on alert for her and anxiety will quickly leave you
She herself walks about looking for those who are worthy of her

And graciously shows herself to them as they go,

In every thought of their coming to meet them.

Be yourself

Sometimes in life, fate brings things together. When that happens you will find that one special person who would race over to your house in the middle of the night just to wipe the tears from your face. You will be able to go around with no makeup, sweat pants, major bed head and they will still make you feel beautiful. When you realize that you have this amazing person, hold on tight. Chances are that they are your soul mate.

The five W’s of life: Who you are is what makes you special. Do not change for anyone. What lies ahead will always be a mystery. Do not be afraid to explore. When life pushes you over, push back harder. Where there are choices to make, make the one you won’t regret. Why things happen will never be certain. Take it in stride and move forward.

So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.​

*SAD, BUT TRUE !!!* 

1. Realize this: 

No matter what you say and how you say it, SOME people will never get it. 

That’s not your fault!

*Sad, But True!*
2. No matter how pure your motives are, SOMEBODY will still accuse you of ill intentions.

Stay pure anyway. 

*Sad, But True!*
3. No matter how humble you are, somebody will still consider you proud. Stay humble, anyway.

*Sad, But True!*
4. No matter how generous you are, somebody will still call you “selfish”. Remain generous, anyway.

*Sad, But True!*
5. Sometimes some of your greatest pains will come from those you gave the most pleasure.

*Sad, But True!*
6. Some of your greatest disappointments will come from those you gave your best appointments or commitments. 

*Sad, But True!*
7. Sometimes some of the worst things you’d hear about yourself may come from those you speak the best of. 

*Sad, But True!*
8. Not everyone in your ship is paddling in the direction of your dreamed destination.

Discernment is key. 

*Sad, But True!*
9. Loving people sometimes means feeling used by them.

*Sad, But True!*
10. Sometimes, doing the right thing ends up making you look like a fool.

*Sad, But True!*
11. Tough as it seems, any evil done against you can become a seed for your promotion… It depends on your response. 

*Sad, But True!*
12. I would rather appear foolish now and see the wisdom of the Almighty God unfold, than appear wise now and turn out a fool later.

*Sad, But True!*
13. Promotion doesn’t come by fighting for your rights but by being faithful in doing what is right.

*Sad, But True!*
14. Those who will enjoy true promotion by the Almighty must be willing to forgive freely, forgive quickly and forgive wholly.

*Sad, But True!*
15. Those who will relish true promotion must be willing to serve many for free and selflessly. 

*Sad, But True!*

16. Read with caution: Sometimes, to see the positive things Almighty God can do for you, then you have to be willing to stop what you can do in offending Him.

*Sad, But True!*
17. Without God’s sign off, your biggest step can turn out to be your biggest mistake.

*Sad, But True!*
18. Pain has a higher potential to toughen you up than pleasure does. 

*Sad, But True!*
19. Problems are easier to solve than people.

*Sad, But True!*
20. Many people will celebrate you only as long as your advancement doesn’t exceed their expectations of you. 

*Sad, But True!*
21. Some people get close enough to you just to find something bad about you to broadcast to the world.

*Sad, But True!*
22. Some people are quiet when you’re succeeding but quick to point out your failures. 

*Sad, But True!*
23. Hating those who hate you makes them your leaders, since you’re following their footsteps.

*Sad, But True!*
24. Rather than react to a negative situation. Respond to your revelation.

*Sad, But True!*
25. Believe the best even when you’re going through the worst.

*Sad, But True!*
26. They hurt you? Don’t hold it against them. Hold them up in prayer.

*Sad, But True!*
27. Forgiving people is not just a good idea. It’s a GOD’s idea. Actually, more than an idea. It’s an instruction.

*Sad, But True!*
28. How you respond to a situation can be more important than the situation.

*Sad, But True!*
29. Your ability to overlook an offence determines the degree of dominion you’d exercise over many other things. 

*Sad, But True!*
30. Wisdom will help you solve problems. A large heart will help you accommodate people. You need both.

*Sad, But True!*
31. When all is said and done, let the fear and the love of the Almighty GOD in your heart pour through your daily walk!

*Sad, But True!*
32. The wise is he who takes lessons from the above, and with them benefit others!

*Sad, But True!*
33. Some people may think this piece is targeted at them. No. Everyone alive will need one of the points at some point or the other.

*Sad, But True!*
*Just be Happy!*

*Sad, But True!*

 Ways to Be Your Own Hero.

What makes us love Harry Potter or most action movies? Why do we always cheer for the good guys? Why do we love a good story of challenge, perseverance and triumph?


What makes these stories timeless?
The story of the hero has not changed for thousands of years. Since ancient times our traditions and culture venerate the myth of the hero on a mission. A hero leaves his or her home, faces challenges, triumphs and usually returns home as a changed man or women.

In 1990 the late American writer and intellectual Joseph Campbell wrote of the hero’s journey — the mythological journey that all men and women go through in life. He believed that the highest purpose in life was to complete this journey like some mythological voyage.

A hero is without shape and beyond time; the human need for heroes transcends all cultures.

The Need For a Story

What makes a hero unforgettable is not their strength but rather their will. We admire their ability to transcend defeat and persevere. When we watch them we temporarily become them. We live vicariously through them. This is the lure of sports — an average person can experience the glory of the players.

What makes a hero so undefeatable? What makes him stand up after being knocked down a hundred times? The answer is simple. A story. Not just any story, but one that involves a deeply personal path that the individual walks alone.

It may be a story that his or her grandparents told them while sitting around the fire or one a mentor once inspired in them or perhaps it’s the result of some deeply powerful event.

Regardless of the medium, the story has been absorbed deep into the hero. The ups and downs of his/her adventure are not seen as separate events but rather as parts of one whole.

Like a beautiful cloth the ups and downs of the journey weave together to form his life.

This is real motivation — motivation that sees past the failures and successes to some grander purpose of life.

Each goal, each step, each time you fall down is seen within a bigger context. Like seeing the forest in its beautiful entirety, a hero doesn’t focus on the individual trees and plants.

Focus Rather Than Reaction

When we look at the bigger picture of our lives, we see the highs and lows as part of the journey. We avoid myopically focusing on separate goals and focusing our attention on a million different tasks. Instead of just reacting to events, we keep our focus.

To be honest, I have stumbled for the majority of my life looking for real motivation — one that lasts. I have jumped from goal to goal like a series of unsuccessful college romances. My goals have served me well, but my direction hasn’t remained consistent. It wasn’t until I questioned what was MOST important for me that my story became more well-defined. I wanted to do too many things in life. I can’t be the hero of my own story if I am trying to do everything and do nothing at the same time.So I defined it.

How to Find Your Story

The first step is defining what is most important is focusing on what you want and cut out the rest. This clarity came to me in the form of a yellow legal pad and twenty-five well-thought-out things I wanted in life.

These were my goals, my dreams and my desires. I had a lot but I could only pick five. Doing this focused my attention and my life on the few things I really wanted. It allowed me to regain my purpose without feeling scattered like I did before.Deciding which five things were the most important for me and physically writing them down acted as an affirmation of my own values. I put them on my wall to remind me.

The most powerful change always comes from the simplest things.

The exercise in priorities was not my trick but rather Warren Buffet’s. Buffet recommended this to his pilot who was struggling with what to do with his life. He advised him that the secret to ruthless determination is to collect your focus and only invest it into several dreams. Do not disperse it among twenty.

The moral of the story is that if you want motivation that transcends the individual goals and to-do lists, one that unites them all together in a greater purpose, you must define your story. You are already a hero. You just need to create your story and live it.

 Focus Your Energy

Use the exercise above. Using pen and paper or computer, write twenty-five things you want in life. Pick five. Set aside some time, an hour or so, to do this. You don’t want to be distracted. You now have two lists — one to focus all your energy on and one to avoid. Put your lists on your wall in a place you can see them daily.

Happiness is a by-product of meaningful experience. It cannot be directly pursued, and if it is it won’t last.Instead challenge yourself to battle the monsters in your life. Know that failure is part of the process.

The Hero Returns

The hero always returns home wiser and better. Reflect on your journey and share it with others. Nothing in life is as worthwhile as sharing with others.

Our modern world, with all the amazing progress and technology, has forgotten many of our roots. Modernity has slowly annexed the role of tradition. As our world becomes more integrated, it becomes easier to forget our individual relationship with life . We increasingly look outside for motivation. We love quotes and uplifting speeches, but rarely do we turn our attention inward and see that true motivation lies in your own story.

Define what you truly want in life and reclaim your motivation.

What helps you get through those hard times? Drop a comment below, and let me know how you keep yourself motivated .

What You Do Defines Who You Are (and What You Get Out of Life)

What You Do Defines Who You Are (and What You Get Out of Life)We’ve all got that friend – the one who is always talking big, like they’re going to start this amazing new company, write an inspiring novel or change the world. In fact we probably have more than one friend we hear constantly talking about big future plans.​

The problem I have noticed with not all, but many of my peers (20-somethings) is follow-through. Ideas are everywhere, but motivation is seemingly nonexistent. Life doesn’t start tomorrow, life is happening right now . Successful people know this and are focused on achieving their dreams and goals 24/7. It’s more than an obsession and a passion, it’s what they are living. Instead of talking, they’re doing.
Does what you’re doing at your day job support your overall life goals?

Are you equally excited for personal projects as you are projects at work?

Do you actually have any personal projects?

Do you have a passion?

Are you refining/advancing your skills and knowledge of something daily?

Do you know exactly what you want in life?

These are all big questions. But I guarantee you successful, motivated and passionate people not only answered yes to all of them instantly, but they even knew the what and why as well without much thought. If you didn’t answer yes to all of these, it may be the day to rethink your life.

I’m 20 and know exactly what I want out of life and the ways I plan to achieve it. In fact, I’ve known for years. One of my peers told me, that “I’m lucky to have found something I’m passionate about.” I disagree with that. I’m not “lucky” to have found it at all, it was a combination of my unquenchable thirst for knowledge, my desire to pursue independent learning and the fact that I can’t stop reading and consuming information.

If you haven’t found it yet, that incredible spark and excitement for life, here’s the reality: it isn’t just going to randomly happen or fall into your lap. It isn’t the result of lots of money, nor is it the result of chance and circumstance.

It is the result of freeing yourself mentally and engaging your intellect. It is the result of breaking away from your peers and delving deeply into a niche. It is the result of focus, determination and motivation. It is the result of an internal drive that is unstoppable.

How do you find a passion? There’s so many engaging, interesting and ultimately fulfilling things to spend your free time (and your work time) doing. The question is how can you not find a passion?

Once you’ve found it, it’s amazing and indescribable – no one can sway your thoughts and your concentration. When you know exactly what you want in life and what really drives you, you’ll never again be bored, tired or unfulfilled. Seemingly boundless inspiration and motivation will be brought forward.

Friends have called me “because they are bored” and I never understood it. I’m not sure how it is possible to be bored, life itself presents infinite challenges and mysteries, but only finite amount of time to explore them. That’s why having a focus is vital – we’re all only given X amount of time to accomplish what we set forth, and you certainly cannot do everything.

People who spend their free time engaged in a passion are happier, more creative and more dynamic in their personality than those who merely spend their time as consumers of vapid entertainment pop-culture. Getting sucked into that is a waste of life and (in my opinion) leaves smart people unfulfilled. It’s essentially fast food for your brain – small amounts once in awhile are fine, but I can’t understand how people live off of it.

Do you come home from work and simply fall down in front of the TV where you spend your time until you sleep? If the answer is yes, perhaps you should consider living life yourself instead of by proxy. You’re going to wake up one day regretting how you spent your limited time in existence. A human lifespan is but a cosmic blink when you consider the age of the Earth, our galaxy and the universe. It’s precious, it’s rare and it is happening right now. To waste it is to give up the ultimate gift.

I feel like most of you reading here understand this, and if you do this post was not for you. It’s for everyone who is living life by proxy and for those of you who haven’t yet found a passion and embraced your true, creative self. It is not too late, you can do it. Start today

LIFE!

About you! 
Its purpose is to send you on a journey through your heart, mind, and soul. If you take the journey you will find in yourself the reason for living. If you care at all about life and people and yourself, you will take the journey.If you are a humanist, a skeptic, simply do not know what to believe, or you are just looking for a reason to live, please read my writeup it represents an objective, rational, reasoned, search for a reason for living.Phone calls are great. But when you want to say something important, writing a note, especially a handwritten note, can be even more powerful. Why? Notes are unexpected.

We begin our journey.

 

The day you were born you began a learning process that will continue for the rest of your life. You were, from the beginning, molded by your surroundings, parents, relatives, playmates, by all the general attitudes, ideas, and beliefs you came in contact with. Each new year of life added to your past, changing the way you viewed every new day, influencing how you reacted to everything from the simplest daily routines to complex events touching you, your family, and the world you lived in.

As you grew older you interacted with people from different backgrounds with differing ideas about life. Faced with new ideas, you may have defended your beliefs, or you may have completely abandoned your past. However, like most people, you probably belong to that vast river of humanity which lives each moment in the easiest, most pleasant way possible. If so, you were and are more or less able to blend ideas, feelings, philosophies, desires, and realities to justify what you want to do.

Along with the majority of people, you were and are good at sending questions and ideas about the meaning of life and death, as well as thoughts and feelings about what is good and right, deep into the cloudy regions of your mind. Whether we realize it or not, most of us are voluntary prisoners of our minds, unwilling to question who we are and what we believe, happy to simply roll along through life. Most of us will live from birth to death in a world we have fashioned from our past to suit our present.

 Few of us will ever stand free from our present beliefs and daily lives to ask what is life about? Who am I? What should I do? What will I do? If there is meaning to life, and a reason for living, these questions must be answered.If there is a true meaning to life, nothing that you do, say, or think will change that truth. What good is it to live your life believing what you are doing is right if your beliefs are false and what you are doing is wrong? It is an understanding of life that we seek, a search for something in life worth living for.

If you are to find the meaning of life you must be willing to recognize it if and when you see it. To do so requires you to open your mind and accept whatever you discover, even if it is totally opposite to your experiences, beliefs, and wishes. Since our discussion deals with the purpose of life, if what we are saying is true, your willingness to understand is a willingness to grasp the very reason for your living. If the answers you find are different from those you have molded for yourself, you must decide whether to continue on the path you are on, or go another way on a new path toward a new destination.

Journey of life never stop until you totally not stopped. It is already decided by supreme power, how long you have to travel. Everyone don’t have same blanket avoid feeling to cold. Always not auspicious, it comes and back with circular form some gets more ease but not static or permanently. They vary time to time. Nothing came outside all are there only, somehow replace or change in several time in other and some time disappear again visible.

YES!!Our life is a race.

A race full of competition, a race to survive, race to excel, race to differentiate, race to achieve, race to win. For different people the meaning and the context of the race changes. But the ground remains the same and that is called LIFE.For some it is a race to earn a daily bread, an aspiration to sleep after a full meal, a dream to send their child to school, a wish to provide 3 times meal to his/her family.For some it is just a plain vanilla life. Whatever is coming on their way its welcome. No efforts, no willingness. Sometime NO PAIN NO Gain, and sometimes No pain Easy gain.For others it’s a life to excel, to achieve, to create a mark, to be different, to carve a niche and reach to top.

There is a different side to it, people who believe they know the real purpose of life are called saints. They live an isolated life, harnessing the real energy of nature.No one is going to take anything from the world. A Billion dollar man and a Zero Dolar man will go the same way from this life. Its just the play which matters. How well you played, that is important!!Your work is important and the legacy is to be cherished and remembered.I am not someone who is ashamed of my past. I’m actually really proud. I know I made a lot of mistakes, but they, in turn, were my life lessons.In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. 

The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.You can’t live your life for other people. You’ve got to do what’s right for you, even if it hurts some people you love. Don’t let anyone ever make you feel like you don’t deserve what you want. To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, to draw closer, to find each other and to feel.Life’s true gift lies in your freedom to design it beautifully. With each rise of the sun, you get to chase the opportunity to fill your days with meaning—to live your life the way you choose. Push yourself to pursue a life worth living.

Change can come in many forms in our lives. It might come forcefully like a tidal wave, or creep along incrementally like a glacier. It might come in the form of devastating tragedy, difficult choices, broken relationships, or even new opportunities.But even though change is often difficult, many times it’s also for the best. Accomplishing anything great in life requires significant change that pushes us beyond our comfort zones.

Many times, the only way to improve our lives is to force ourselves to undergo difficult change. That might mean breaking up and leaving a stale but comfortable relationship, leaving a mediocre but stable job, moving away from a nice but uninspiring location, or anything else that’s holding us back from accomplishing our dreams.

Of course, dealing with uninvited change in our lives is often difficult and painful. In many cases, instigating major, but necessary, change in our life can be just as painful. But whatever change you’re dealing with, know that how you cope with that change will have an impact on your future.

The most important question is-

1. Do we really need a purpose?

2. What if we live without a purpose?

3. What if we achieved our purpose? What will we do next?

4. What if we do not achieve the purpose?

5. Are we complicating our life by tying it to a purpose?

So everyone in this world need to have a purpose- an insect living a life must also have a purpose and even a horse. Isn’t it? They too are living beings.There are chances that a bachelor will have a different life purpose and once he is married the purpose might change and after having children the purpose will again change by 360 degree. So is the purpose constant? Is this purpose a PIVOT which has tied up to fulfill some desires and we have started calling it our purpose of life.

Some believe finding God is the purpose of life. For those individual souls who have sought and found God, the search is over. Or gaining Moksha is happiness since his search and the connection is a Joy that connects the soul.but i myself find God in the purpose of my life,i think you should do the same.everyone has a choice.

FINDING HAPPINESS IS THE PURPOSE OF LIFE

Finding the thing that give you happiness before sleep is the most important thing in life which can be synonymous to finding the purpose of life.All will accept the idea that the purpose of life is to find happiness. Whether this happiness comes from achieving something, helping someone, gaining materialistic success, giving back to society is an individual criteria.

What will be the purpose of life for a doctor, An engineer, A manager, an astronaut, or the Prime minister of India – Or is it that we have created a designation/job to find a purpose which we are chasing? For a soldier protecting the country in all situations might be the purpose of his life. But is this the real purpose of his life? Do he need to fight a war to prove that he achieved the purpose of his life? What if he never fought a far?

With age comes expectation and with expectations comes desires, with desire comes the pleasure hunt. With this hunt comes hard work and the race of running after success and materialistic desires. With such desires comes disappointment and dissatisfaction. What Next?

Everyone is engaged in an eternal quest for that “something else” which will bring him the unending happiness.At some point people run behind wealth, fame, power, friends and even after gaining which they again become dissatisfied and need something more.This need of something more is the cause of increasing dissatisfaction.Happiness is a delight is all about gaining that invisible inner experience everyone is seeking.

In short we must cultivate something in us which gives us happiness. This search of happiness is what gives more meaning to our life and solves our purpose.If your questions to your life are answered- you have understood the purpose of life.

If not –Carry on!! Happy Hunting!!lolsssss

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 My name is Elizabeth. Im living and studying in nigeria.Im in my early 20s. I studied political science and international relations as a course study. Im a sprinter,blogger,and a great motivator. I like to motivate people emotionally down. I want to take you to the world of life facts. I love to write, im passionate about writting. Im plain and simple. And i also specialize in simple and effective writeups that you would surely love. Just take your time here to read and enjoy. And also make sure you read, comment, like, follow and subscribe.What unites us as human beings is an urge for happiness which at heart is a yearning for union. ~ Sharon Salzberg 

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